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Firstly we must know that men do this all the time. it really isn't a big deal when they do it. she is a grown woman living her life. She has been married twice and is just chilling. her kids are happy and so that's all that counts. she is not hurting anyone.
analyse the beahavior of madonna : A 55-year-old headteacher has been convicted of having sex with two underage girls and taking their virginities. One was just 13 years old.
When you hear that statement, chances are you think of a vile sex offender – a man who abused his position of power, groomed his victims and deserves his eight-year jail sentence.
But what about when I tell you that it wasn’t a man who groomed underage girls. It was a female head teacher called Anne Lakey who has been found guilty of having underage sex with two boys back in the 1980s, when she was a history teacher in her late 20s.
It’s likely that the label ‘sex offender’ doesn’t jump to mind for Lakey – but that’s exactly what she is.
As a society, we tend to view cases of male and female sex offenders differently. We’re so used to hearing about male offenders that our reactions are honed – disgust, outrage and pity for the victim.
But when it’s a female offender, it’s different. Normally it’s portrayed as the woman falling in love with the boy so we see it as a strange but romantic affair where age is just an obstacle. We don’t always see her as a sex offender or the boy as a victim.
We say 'cor... lucky him'
Clinic psychologist Dr Jacquie Hetherton explains: “Women are stereotypically kind and loving and gentle and that doesn’t fit with our view of abusers. When we hear about examples in the news, we think, maybe the child misinterpreted it?
“We’re more likely to give these interpretations. We think ‘it can’t be that harmful for the child’, but research shows it is for people when they realise what happened. They feel used and abused.
“People tend to go, ‘it can’t be that bad’, and ‘cor... lucky him’, especially if it’s an attractive teacher,” says Dr Hetherton. “Society kind of endorses or supports [how the perpetrator sees the situation].”
Typically, when an older woman offends by having a relationship with someone she’s in charge of professionally, they fit into a psychological category known as the ‘teacher-lover’. Dr Hetherton explains: “These women feel they’re inducting the person into a loving relationship. They frame it that way and over look that they’re a child.
“They may see it as an affair and a viable way of expressing their sexuality. They might see the adolescent as responsible especially if they initiated it or seemed to enjoy it. Women are very into the idea of the big romance and if they think it’s reciprocated they can put it into their heads as, it’s a big love story. That’s something women are particularly vulnerable to.”
Manipulation disguised as 'love'
It explains why these women offend. Unlike the other types of female perpetrators – ‘pre-disposed offenders,’ who have a history of being abused themselves, or ‘male coerced offenders,’ who sexually abuse younger people because a man is coercing them into it – these types of women convince themselves they’re in love.
That’s not necessarily the case. Anthony Beech, criminological psychology professor at the University of Birmingham, explains his thinking: “The teachers are entitled. They think they can have sex with anyone they want. It’s power imbalance and manipulation. There’s a narcissism – I can do what I want because I’m the most important person going.”
But what about women such as 26-year-old teacher Ruth Vaughan who kissed a student at a leavers’ ball and had a sexual affair with him after he started university? She was banned from teaching for three years, and the relationship was deemed inappropriate even though the student wasn’t underage when they began being sexually active.
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